I’m Deliberate And Afraid Of Nothing
My journey as a transgender person started when I was four.
I remember taking a bath with my youngest sister and asking my mom why I had to cover my area and what was this awful mistake between my legs.
I started dressing up when my sisters weren’t around and using their makeup in the bathroom or in the basement where we had an assortment of wigs in a department store box.
I always felt different from others but I knew that if I kept this secret, I reduced my chances of serious bodily injury so I try to overcompensate with weight training and sports.
The impact it has had on my life has been dramatic. I went from having a connection to my other siblings and my mom to only having two who accept me.
The biggest challenge is at work where I used to be the top employee with my performance to a transwoman who is on a performance plan due to working in a transphobic, hostile work environment where ciswomen lie about me regularly because they are not comfortable with me being authentic.
What I Learnt
- Build a strong support system in case family, friends or work are abandoning you.
- It’s better to being true to yourself sooner than later.
- Don’t compare yourself to others and belittle any of your accomplishments. You are valuable and appreciated.
About Vivien Luczak
Vivien Luczak is an advocate for human rights. She has constantly tried to empower others around her through example and her willingness to help others.
She has a wife, Shannonlee of over four years who has been very supportive of her authenticity. She loves spending time with her cat, Serena, watching movies, trying new restaurants, reading and a deep appreciation for the outdoors.
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